Dallas Divorce Law Blog by Michelle O'Neil

Dallas Divorce Lawyers note a similar trend to that in a recent Newsweek article.  Newsweek point to a trend nationally where divorcing couples are sharing equal time with their children as well as joint decision making.  The “standard” orders in a Dallas divorce involves parents making shared decisions regarding their children (such as what school they will attend or when to get braces) but the children live primarily with one parent and spend time with the other parent according to the Texas Standard Possession Schedule (current version 2008).  Increasingly, divorcing parents who are able to get along and co-parent their children are turning to a more equal possession schedule, such as a week-on/week-off type arrangement.  These arrangements work well as long as parents live close together, preferably in the same school district, and get along well enough to collaborate on homework, activities, and such things.  Parents who argue or cannot communicate do not do well with this type of arrangement.

A recent national survey of divorce lawyers notes an increase in the number of mothers paying child support.  According to the survey, 55% of attorneys said they have noticed a shift during the past five years in which more mothers are required to pay child support. 

This mimicks the trend that Dallas divorce lawyers are also seeing locally.  Many years ago, the Texas Family Code eliminated the gender bias from the language of the law, equalizing the rights of mothers and fathers.  Over the years since, the Texas Legislature has continued to support an increase in fathers rights overall.  We could have a spirited discussion on why this is… is it because many of the Legislators are fathers that have been involved in custody situations?  or is it because many of the Legislators are male?  Regardless, there has been a definite trend toward equalizing male and female roles related to children of divorce.  This, likewise, means that when a mother is not the primary parent, she will be required to pay child support.  In years past, when a mother did not have custody of the children, most often she was not made to pay support, presuming that the father made sufficient income to support the children financially without assistance from the mother.  But, some women more than or equal to their husbands (baby’s father) and therefore are required under the law to take equal or greater financial responsibility for the children.

Texas has standardized guidelines for the payment of child support based on the income of the paying parent… For example, 20% of the net income of the parent if there’s one child, 25% for two children, etc.  The formula becomes more complex if there are children from multiple relationships, where the parent paying the child support is given a credit for support paid to the children from the other relationship.

Regardless, there has been a trend recently in Dallas area divorces where mothers are being required to pay child support.  This isn’t necessarily because of some inherent unfairness in the legal system, but more because of a trend toward equalizing treatment of each parent regardless of gender.

Apparently Alec Baldwin has a book coming out this week that talks about his experience with the divorce process.  I read an excerpt of the book online — the introduction and part of the first chapter.  What I read seemed to be his “rant” on perceived corruption in the judicial system in California.  He calls the judges inept and the lawyers lazy.  I plan to get the book and read the rest of it just to see what he has to say.  I don’t know the lawyers or the judge involved with his case. No doubt he had a bad experience with his divorce — we all remember the ultra-inappropriate voice mail left for his daughter. No doubt the judge in his case disapproved.  I am curious to see how much of the book shows a viewpoint skewed by his bitterness and anger as opposed to a bias in the system that is more far-reaching.  I was struck immediately by a story he tells in chapter 1 about controversies with movie producers where he concludes that the producers are more corrupt than the illegal drug business.  I question his credibility in criticizing the legal system when he also calls the movie producers corrput.  Sounds like he’s saying, anything I disagree with is therefore corrupt.  Overall, his book seems like an honest, maybe even raw,  account of an embittered divorce — not so dissimilar to the experiences of many people.  He also disucsses his opinions on “parental alienation”, which he calls a syndrome, although I’ve never known of it to be a diagnosable condition. He does seem to shed light on the inequities and prejudices that continue to persevere in our country over women versus men in raising children.  Starting a discussion of those inequities in a valuable result of his book, I just hope that the good that can come from a celebrity bringing a private situation in the public eye isn’t overshadowed by his bitterness and anger. 

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I always enjoy getting a note from a client after I’ve finished their case, indicating they were happy with what we accomplished for them. Here’s one I received today from A.C.:

The May Firm goes above and beyond with their support and Team effort in such a tremendous time of upheaval in one’s life. Michelle May O’Neil has a very strong grip on interpreting the law. She advocates for her client to receive a just, fair outcome without stooping to a level of mud-slinging or degrading the other side. Her presence in the courtroom is one of strength and skill. She is given respect, justly deserved, the minute she enters the courtroom.

Thanks, A.C.! I enjoyed representing you — you are a sweet woman and a great parent.